Leaving the nest
Have you gone through the rollercoaster of emotions that come with sending your kids off to college?
It’s gonna be okay, right?
He’ll make friends…
He sounded good when I talked to him today, he said he met a few people already.
I’d love to call him right now so I can hear his voice, I heard that song Sideways from his playlist on the radio today.
God, I need to get a grip and stop crying all the time!!
That was with my first son Donnie- I was a wreck, and my mantra at the time was “he’s where he’s supposed to be, as long as he’s happy, I’m happy.”
Fast forward 3 years- my youngest, Brady, is leaving for school in the Fall.
My husband Don looks over to me at Brady’s last track meet and says- “It’ll never be like this again you know”
Ughh… my heart sank.
He was right!
Track meets, hearing a bunch of kids laughing downstairs, waking up to those friends asleep all over the house, day to day conversations – it would all change in the Fall.
Again, I knew my mantra would be “he’s where he’s supposed to be, as long as he’s happy, I’m happy.”
Well guess what? They’re not always happy. But, more importantly, they learn to advocate for themselves, they find their tribe, their worlds open up and they realize they can find the answers to important questions- on their own.
Guess who they need less and less of?
Except when they need money of course.
A nest with a view
We knew the day was coming when it would be just the two of us again.
Gearing up for it, we started taking our bikes over to Peaks Island, looking at cottages we had seen for sale in the paper. It was kind of a pipe dream for the future, but it’s always fun to look, right?
Well, who knows exactly when the right time is to buy a cottage? Especially when you’re looking at paying college tuition times two.
A leap of faith
The cottage we found was built in 1898, it was dark and filled with tons of stuff, but had loads of character and a peek of the ocean from the upstairs sunporch.
This cottage needed some new life and we were starting a new chapter in ours.
It doesn’t fill a void or make me miss the days of my boys being home under the same roof any less, but it’s a nice getaway and we love that we are outside more often, walking trails in the middle of the island with the dog, hanging out with island friends.
It was a good fit.
Stay tuned for upcoming posts about how we put our personal stamp on this cottage and the inspiration behind it all.